Dating Conversations and Topics

Dating is stressful enough with the hair, the makeup, the clothes, what to do and where, not to mention you need to make conversation!

You know that panic you feel when things suddenly go tense and your mind goes into panic mode "say something, anything!". This can lead to bad conversations or poorly chosen questions "so you like stuff?". Be armed with these conversation topics and questions and get a head start on your date. There are even tips about what to do when the other person is talking.

You can always start with a broad topic question and then narrow it down from there. Continue asking questions about the topic, this will get you closer to understanding your date.

Avoid asking yes or no questions. Asking these questions doesn't get you very far in the conversation and then you're struggling to ask another question. People Love to Talk About Themselves

Talk about the person your with, people love to talk about themselves and answer questions. What are their passions, interests and hobbies. If the person starts talking about negative aspects of their life you can change the topic. You want to keep negativity out of the conversation, you want this person to go home feeling like they had an incredible time. Not down on themselves because of the conversation.

Favourites

Talk about favourites and ask questions, this is a huge one to find out their basic interests, likes and dislikes. Talk about sports, sport teams, food, music, movies, cities, color, tv show, hobbies, activities, etc.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is very important, if you are looking around the room it doesn't look like you're very interested in what they are saying. Looking long into their eyes makes them feel very important and the center of your attention.

Talk About Your Surroundings

This wont always work, but you can use your setting as a way to generate conversation. Talk about the music playing and ask what their favorite music is. Talk about the art or architecture or the food. Research Current Events

Before your date go look at the current events, and I don't mean last week, I mean that day or the day before. Look for something nice or funny. That way you get on a topic of current or local things. Avoid sad or depressing news, you want to entertain them not depress them, the press does a good enough job of that as it is. Look in your newspaper or news channel, try the yahoo news page or any other site that's up to date.

Talk About Your Experiences

When a conversation is naturally heading into a topic that you have experience with, talk about your experiences. It doesn't have to be really personal, just little insights, funny happenings, etc. Do avoid the sex topic on the first few dates.

Smile

Smile or laugh when it's appropriate, people love a smile and love to know they can make you laugh. Don't make it fake though, it's really obvious.

Monkey See Monkey Do

People like people who are like them. Pay attention to little subconscious things like playing with hair. If the person your with does something small like shift or tuck hair behind their ear, do the same, very subtlely of course.

Don't Give It All Away

Don't lay all your cards out at once. Don't tell everything about yourself rightaway. You want this person to be interested in you, if they feel they heard your entire life story in one date, they may not want another date. Keep that person interested with tid bits, revealing more as you go along.
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