This may come as a shock to you but sex is really pretty boring IF you end up following a routine. So how do you avoid this? Don’t be afraid to use your imagination! That is why most people say that the brain – not the genitals – is the most important sex organ.
And when you use your imagination, it’s equally important to apply your ‘naughty thoughts’ on your woman’s erogenous zones. Erogenous zones are those unique places in her body that generate sexual arousal when stimulated. And so if you know her erotic zones and apply your lustful imagination on them, you can make having sex with her a whole-body experience instead of just engaging in sex that’s limited to her genitals.
Erogenous zones are also important to know when you are giving her a sexual massage!
Know Her ‘Hot Buttons’
So do you know your woman’s sweet sex spots? Here’s a quick rundown of what they may likely be and what you can do to it during a sexual massage.
Ok, her breasts may not be a big erogenous zone secret for you but do you know how to handle them properly during a sexual massage? Most women find men too rough when it comes to fondling their breasts. And more so during sexual massage! So what do you do?
First of all, remember that the goal of a sexual massage is to de-stress while heightening sexual desire. So the general rule is to handle her body with TLC (tender loving care).
When it comes to her breasts, this is what you should do during your sexual massage session: avoid putting your whole hand over her breast. Using your index fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would press a sensitive buzzer. First use dry fingers, then lick your index fingers and push down again.
The fact that she does not feel anything except your index finger on her nipple will send shivers through her body! And because you’re not touching her anywhere else (avoid any other body contact), her body is still in total relaxation (while her mind is already advancing towards sex).
Now, after about 10 ‘finger presses’, very lightly lick her nipple. Do not overdo this, just give her butterfly licks. After about 10 licks on each breast, stop and go to other hot zones.
Another erogenous zone is her armpit. Lick this during the sexual massage and she will feel delirious and lustful! To make sure that this is not unpleasant for you. Prepare a wet, hot towel before you start the sexual massage and use it to wipe her armpit before you start licking gently.
Do the ‘Dip’
From her upper torso, gently move towards sexually massaging her by doing “The Dip”. Put her arms above her head then position your arms under her shoulder (as if you were embracing her in bed). This position will ‘open’ her body to you. Breathe warmly against her collarbone, kiss the side of each breast and then position your tongue between her breasts.
From this position, lick her all the way down, passing her stomach, belly button, belly and then ending with a quick ‘dip’ in her genitals!
This is the proper position when you start focusing on her feet: have her bend her knees and spread her legs a bit. This vulnerable position will already bring images of sex to her mind. You then kneel between her legs and lift one of her legs so that you can massage her foot. Put a lot of warm, massage oil on your hands and then slowly knead her feet. At the end of your massage, breathe against the sole of her feet. Your warm breath will both relax and sexually stimulate her.
Toes are often neglected erogenous zones! The proper way to sexually massage toes is this: clean off any oil on and between her toes with a soft, wet and warm towel. Hold her big toe, run your thumb against its sole (out a bit of pressure) and follow through with a quick like. Do this for each toe. The next step is to slowly and seductively suck each toe!
Have your woman lie on her back. Put some warm oil on your hands and gently massage her ass, kneading lightly. After this, progress to kissing them and licking them. And then just when she’s so relaxed, comfortable or maybe even about to drift off, part her buttocks and lick her anus. This will send her a sexual charge like no other!
Proceed to licking her crack and when you notice that she’s getting too excited. Turn her over and let the love-making begin!
The fact that your bodies are both slick from the massage oil and glistening in the dark makes love-making even more exciting.
Her Erogenous Zones
By Gabrielle Moore
OK, so you know the obvious ones (dear God I hope) – her breasts, vagina, clitoris, and anus, but there are some northern regions you’ll want to tend to first.
The best for breasts
Are you a boob guy? Oh right, who isn’t? Well, there’s a sweet melange of methods you can use to arouse this sensitive (and enticing) area of her body. They come in an endless array of sizes and shapes, and just as they are varied in form, they’re also varied in stimulation.
Some women like them to be caressed, squeezed (gently), tweaked, held, kissed, and sucked. However, being too aggressive (and at the wrong time of the month) can cause her a lot of pain, so be sure that you proceed with some caution.
A detailed description of the different types of breasts and nipples, and how to handle each case (believe me! There’s a whole different way for each type) can be found in my book “Turn Her On Faster”.
Surprising female “hotspots”
The great thing about women is that they aren’t cookie-cutter sexual beings – different women have different areas that enjoy titillation. While most females will concur that the aforementioned erogenous zones are universally appealing, women love to compare notes on what makes them tick versus their friends. “I love when a guy puts his hands in my hair and massages my scalp,” one friend told me. Another said, “When he kisses or sucks the inside of my wrists, I turn into putty.” The list of possibilities is endless.
There are a number of unlikely “zones” that you’ll want to throw into your foreplay regimen for good measure.
While discovering every facet of her figure is a lot of fun, the practice of truly learning about her entire body is very important. There’s a term that the infamous Dr. Ruth coined and it’s “body mapping.”
There are a few rules to body mapping, and number one is, avoid the genitals. You already know just how sensitive they can be, and genital touching will cause you to rush because the desire to have an orgasm could become too strong to resist. But other than the genitals, leave no area untouched, no zone unexplored. You might have been skipping that lone spot even your partner didn’t already know about.
And don’t limit yourself to just touching. Licks and kisses can create different sensations. The idea is to spend your time exploring.
Using your fingers
With all the toys out there, who knew your own little fingers could be such a powerful sex tool? Give yourself some credit – women don’t only like little buzzing dolphins down there. They like it when you’re down there too (as long as you’re doing the job), and they like it even more if you can turn her on.
You just need to go in (no pun intended) with confidence, creativity, and most of all, clean hands (quick side note: if you want your wife to be receptive to you fiddling around down there with your fingers, please make sure you have clean hands and fingernails, with no rough hangnails, calluses, and even rings).
Want to add to your repertoire of finger techniques? When you’ve been with someone for an extended amount of time, you can grow “accustomed” to your partner’s touch. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t find a bevy of places to explore as well as exciting new ways to use those fingers.