I have problems reaching orgasm

I have problems reaching orgasm. I used to be so orgasmatic it was unreal. Now I need to have larger and larger objects to fill my vagina and clitoral stimulation at the same time. My husband and I are now fisting is there any danger in this act as long as we are both agreeable. It doesn't alwasy lead to orgasm, but it helps fill the need...if you get my drift. Thanks

Answer

I understand your problem, and a lot of women actually run into this problem, especially after extended use of sex toys. Eventually you become desensitized to the stimulation. If you would like to become more sensitive again, so you aren't having to continue to go to extremes for an orgasm, you can try not using toys at all. If you hold off on using toys for a while, and I'm talking weeks, maybe longer, you can become sensitive to the stimulation again. It's going to take some patience on you and your husbands part. You need to go back to good old manual stimulation. It will be frustrating to begin with, as foreplay will take much longer. If you've never used sex toys, you may want to give a clitoral vibrator a try.


Some things you can do are begin teasing each other and getting into the mood, hours before you actually have sex, that way your libido will be more reved up. Try having him focus on only you and your enjoyment one night, see if that helps at all. Don't stress yourself to have an orgasm, this just takes the enjoyment out of it and you probably won't have one because you're thinking about it too much. A last option is you can simply not have sex for a month or so and see if that helps when you finally do, of course I'm sure that's not the solution you want.

As for fisting, it is perfectly fine between two consenting adults. However, I do feel the need to warn you that the vaginal tissue is actually very delicate and the vagina is surrounded by organs, which can be damaged by mistake. So just be slow and safe about it, you don't want to get hurt. Something you can do about feeling that need for bigger, is to do kegel exercises. Doing kegels has a lot of benefits, first it will tighten the muscles, which in turn will tighten your vagina and make sex much more sensational. A lot of women have said they have much better orgasms after doing the exercises for 6 weeks. Women who have had children find their vaginas are never the same again, kegels will help bring back a more youthful vagina.