Masturbation

Masturbation is a normal part of life. I repeat, completely normal. It is healthy, but many women are uncomfortable with it, partially because it is not something that is talked about in society. When women do start talking about it amongst themselves it usually doesn’t happen until after high school. This leaves you with years of wondering if what you’re doing is normal or even ok. Here’s the fact, most, if not all, women masturbate!

If women are not masturbating, they are really missing out! It is 100% safe, feels great and it’s good for you. It relieves sexual tension, which women of all ages have the need for. Masturbation begins with self exploration. If you don’t explore yourself how will you know what you like? It will teach you how to achieve your maximum sexual pleasure. You can’t rely on the guy figuring it all out on his own, it just doesn’t happen, he has no idea what it feels like to you.

Begin by exploring yourself, take a hand mirror and explore the unexplored down there! It might seem like a scary thing, but if you don’t know where all the parts are and what they do, you’re going to have a tough time learning to enjoy yourself.

Don’t look at your vulva and think of it as ugly, it’s not! You do not need reconstructive surgery, you are who you are and it’s a beautiful thing. If you haven’t figured out everything down there, take a look at the anatomy section for a quick learning session, then you’ll be ready to go.

Beginning Your Sexual Pleasure

That saying “different strokes for different folks” absolutely applies here. What I like might be completely different from what you like. Which is why this self exploration is so important!
Start off by running your fingers over your clitoris, you can vary the speed and pressure, try soft, light brushes or hard, fast strokes. Keep doing this, practice makes perfect!
You can try using a vibrator, a pillow, a hand held shower head, just your hands, combination of the mentioned, or alternative props…just make sure they are safe.
Try out different positions and techniques. The point of this isn’t to reach orgasm your very first time, if you do, then that’s great! But you’re learning what turns you on and what you find pleasing. Obviously if you find something you like, stick with it. You can always experiment and try other things later on.

It Can Be Hard To Get In The Mood

A lot of women have a hard time getting in the mood, especially when doing this by themselves. A lot of women give up or think what’s the point.
Well I strongly encourage you to give it a try. Sex is a wonderful thing and you should be enjoying every minute of it. And all sex starts with masturbation…look at guys, they’ve got the technique down! And a little secret, guys get turned on watching a woman please herself…there! Another reason you should learn to do this!
There are a lot of things you can do to get in the mood. Basically it will be up to personal preference. Start with what you think is romantic. Is it candle light, a bubble bath, soft music? You just want to create an atmosphere that you are comfortable in and don’t feel self-conscious in. Pick a location, maybe it’s the bath tub, your bed, or somewhere more public (if you’re into that).

Most women like the lights dimmed or turned off, this way there are no distractions and they can concentrate on the pleasurable feeling. Remember not to make the goal an orgasm, if you focus on that you will feel as if you can’t achieve it, and then it’s going to be far harder or impossible. Focus only on the pleasure!

Taking Masterbation To The Next Level

Once you’re more experienced and know what you like, that’s when the fun begins! You get to try out new things. At some point you might get tired of your hand, or doing all that work. That would be why sex toys were invented.
Here are a few ideas for sex toys that you might like!
Vibrators
There are so many vibrators, so what do you chose?
I have a few personal favs:
Rabbit Style Vibrators

The rabbit style is probably one of the best you can get. It’s a little advanced, so you may not want to start off with this one. Usually they have varying speeds and pulsations. There is usually a feature for the clit (sometimes looks like a rabbit) it will vibrate against the clit for stimulation. There are sometimes beads around the shaft that rotate, this is for g-spot stimulation. And the shaft of the vibrator usually vibrates as well. It’s a lot of stimulation!

Clit Vibrators

These are geared to the clit, as most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation these are an excellent idea! The great thing is they are usually small, portable and more discreet, much easier to hide! They usually have a varying speed and sometimes pulsation.

G-Spot Vibrators

The G-Spot vib is, well for your g-spot. Sometimes they offer stimulation to other areas as well. The shaft vibrates and is shaped differently from “normal” vibrators, they may have a bend, kink or a bulge that give the g-spot more stimulation. These can have varying speed and pulsation. I will admit they look a little like torture devices…but hey looks can be deceiving.

Classic Vibrators

And of course the classic vibrator is always a fav. These can get pretty diverse, but choice is always good. They can be hard plastic, or soft and flexible. Either way they all vibrate, the have variable speeds and pulsations. Some are more realistic then others, they may have veins. Some are ribbed or studded for extra pleasure. And some are just straight and smooth.

Classic Dildos

We can’t forget about the classic dildo. Some ladies do not like vibrators and the classic dildo is perfect for vaginal stimulation. There are so many kinds out there, you really have to explore them. Most of them are penis shaped and realistic looking. Some you can add a vibrator to them, which is usually removable, so it’s all up to you! The classic dildo can also be really good when coupled with a clit vibrator.

They are made from lots of different materials, some can be hard, like the glass ones, be careful with those, you don’t want to hurt yourself. Most are flexible and made from silicone. A lot of them have suction cups…really use your imagination as to what you want to suction that to!