Why Do Men Like Porn

Men like porn. This is no big surprise. But why? Even if you live with your man he is probably still watching porn. This came as a huge surprise to my friend who hadn’t realized her husband did this. She felt betrayed when she discovered that some nights after she had gone to bed he would surf the net for porn. What she didn’t understand is why he would rather masturbate then have sex with her. Of course he said this had nothing to do with her and their relationship. But how can it not? While most women view this as a problem with their spouse, it rarely turns into a real problem which interferes with their daily life, about 5% of men will have a real problem.

Women often feel threatened by the porn, instantly comparing themselves to the women in the porn. When it personally upsets me, I try to think logically about this. First, the odds of that guy getting with the porn star are very very slim, and this is the closest he will come to it. He is not sitting there comparing you to her, there is no real emotional attachment, they have no relationship, just a moment of physical release. And try to remember, he’s with you not her, this is just something novel for the moment.

So why masturbate, instead of having sex with his spouse? Sometimes women push their men away, so the man turns to this as his alternative. Or sometimes he just needs a quick and easy release with no emotion (or work) put into it.
Why doesn’t he talk to you about this? Maybe you haven’t asked, cause you probably don’t want to know about it. But mostly the man might be really embarrassed about it.

Porn is a multi billion dollar industry, mostly fueled by men. So it’s pretty safe to say that most men watch it. Men are easily aroused, it has always been this way, since the beginning, when survival of the species was an issue. The man needed to be able to get aroused quickly and easily, in order to reproduce whenever the opportunity knocked.

So what can you do about this? First you have to realize he is not replacing you with porn. He wants to be engaged visually. So try a sex outfit, a little strip tease or a dance. You may feel like you shouldn’t have to do this, and you don’t. But if you do want that attention that was geared to porn, on you, this is one way to do it. Explore your sexual relationship. You can also watch porn together, it can give you ideas and a lot more choice. Look for a porn you will like, besides it’s the men who are easy to please. This does not mean it will cure him of it, far from it, but you may be able to lessen the time he spends watching porn. Sometimes he just wants that 2 minute quicky, which often only involves a computer and a box of tissues.

Remember this too though, while porn isn’t exactly an owners manual, your man can learn a lot of things from it, ie. how to satisfy a woman. So use this to your advantage, find a porn that shows acts that you want to try, instead of having to explain these things to him, just show him, let him think he came up with the idea all on his own. There’s no reason why we can’t take advantage of the situation ladies!